E- Every time
The above full form is what I feel a father is. I am the second daughter in my family and the day I was born all my relatives made scrawny faces saying it’s a daughter. My parents were very happy because unlike some of my dimwitted,shallow shelled, pea brained relatives they feel that a daughter is a boon!!!
A mother is always happy when she gives birth no matter which gender her child is but we have seen many cases where father is gender biased. But in my case I am lucky as my father never treated me like a girl or a boy but like a Child. He loved me,nurtured me instilling good values in me and teaching me to be a good human irrespective of my gender.
Both my parents have been a huge source of inspiration for me. I didn’t have to look outside for idols when I have the biggest idol of inspiration right in my house- MY DAD!!!
Ever since I was a kid I always wanted to become a lawyer. I still remember I use to wear the band and my dad’s shoes and waltz in the house. I wanted to become a lawyer not because the law intrigued me but I saw my dad who was The Asst Public Prosecutor Thane then doing such good work that I wanted to become him. So I took admission in law and I made sure that I got enrolled in the college from where he had done his Law.
My father was assigned as Special Judge in the 1993 Bombay BombBlasts case. This happened when I was studying in primary school. I have had security cover even before I could understand what hurting someone meant. Many people were jealous that they have cops around and they roam in amber lamp cars. This was all a showbiz for them. But what they didn’t know that it was a Crown but a Crown of Thorns. All they saw was the press,the social status, the fawning. At this point many people wanted to befriend me because I was a famous person’s daughter but my dad had told me one thing about making friends A Friend is someone who wants to be with you because of who you are and not because of who your parents are. Following this principle I was able to make friends for my life. People who stand beside me because of who I am and not because of who my Dad is.
Another thing which I learned from him was Never Let Fame Get To Your Head!!! He always taught me that your work should talk for you. Fame is temporary but work is permanent. Do as much as you can to change this world and you will be remembered with love and respect.
Presiding over the the longest criminal trial in the history of Indian Law all I saw in this man when he was at home was a Father and not a Judge. He loved his work and he loved being buried in work. But never once I remember did he tell me or my sister that I have too much pressure it’s not a good time to talk. He has always been there for us attending PTA’s, teaching us to ride bikes, taking us to parks. It’s hard for people believe but we have had a pretty simple and normal childhood. We did all the fun things we were supposed to do with parents. Despite handling work of 10 people alone he was never an absentee Dad. This is what made me learn Balancing!!!
He has always been so strong. In the 1993 blasts case the convicts were mostly terrorists but I never even remember one instance where he was scared of them. He always said “Fear should never stop you from doing your work”.
There are so many things I have learned from him which are hard to pen down in one blog-post but all I would like to say here is my life motto is based on the values he has taught me.
People ask me often was your life different?
Yes my life was different. I was not able to enjoy certain social liberties completely. I had to make sure that people are not befriending me to contact my Dad. I was not able to have private moments with my boyfriend because I always had a security guy with me.
This use to be little unsettling to me when I was a kid but when I grew up I realized that you have make sacrifices for the greater good.
I don’t have any regrets of certain things that I lost because I am glad that my Dad was able to put people behind bars. Seeing this people who had terrorized our nation pay for their crime made it worthwhile.
Dad you have always been for an inspiration to me. All I wish is that I could become even 1% like you. I won’t be able to make a huge difference in the society but I promise that I will never deviate from the principles which you taught. Thank you for being you. I love you the most in this world!!!