From Weddings With Love

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A wedding is the most important day in a bride’s life!!! Ah cut the crap a wedding is the most important day in every girl’s life who attends a wedding ūüėČ . It’s more important because this is one day be its a friend’s,brother’s or even an acquaintances wedding you can dress up the way you like. A bride has to take into consideration many pros and cons before deciding her wedding outfit and she can hardly experiment or go over board. So girlies experiment as much you can in other weddings and by the time you get married you have so many perfect looks to choose from that you really can Rock on your own wedding day!!!

The kind of shopping which I did in my brother’s and close friend’s wedding was almost equal to a bride’s trousseau. I wanted to write about this from a very long time as I haven’t shared anything about how to dress yourself in a Wedding or our most favorite Indian look.

First I am going to start with my good friend’s wedding. She is a Maharashtrian and had opted for the big fat Marathi wedding.

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Yellow,Green and Gold are my to go favorites when it comes to Maharashtrian weddings. The saree which I am wearing is a Paithani which is the Queen of Sarees and a must have for every saree lover.

I decided to go heavy on the jewelry and adorned a gold choker necklace and kundan+pearl jhumkas. Hairstyle was a simple bun with just one string of flowers. Too many gajras is not my style but if you like it you can use them in your hairstyle as with traditional outfits they indeed look beautiful. Also I opted for a white gajra as my outift was yellow and orange would horribly clash with it but if you are wearing any other colour outfit like Red or Orange you can choose orange gajras too, they blend in very well with your outfit colour.

Despite it being a wedding and having hired a make-up artist I did not drop my mantra of just highlighting one feature on your face. I went with the dark lipstick as my highlighted feature and rest of the make up was in light shades of Gold and Nude.

Since it was a day time function I decided to use more bold colours!!! I am a fan of bright colours and tend to include more of them in my wardrobe. Few other bright colours which will work in an Indian wedding are Bottle Green, Orange and Red. Styling them with the right jewellery and perfect make-up will make people eye you even more than the bride!!!

Continuing this if you don’t want to wear a saree which I didn’t want to in my best friend’s wedding as I wanted to dance in the baraat and I feel more comfortable dancing in a Salwar here is how you can style yourself if you don’t wanna wear a saree.

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So you want to wear a dress and yet want to stand out. Will the brocade do the trick? No it won’t you will get lost in other hundreds who wear a Brocade Salwar/Saree, Then how to stand out?

Rule 1: Do the opposite of what you do while choosing a saree colour. Keep the same base dark but ditch the Green,Red and Yellow as they are Brocade favorites instead go for colours added with Electric shades Pink,Orange and Golden.

Rule 2: Accessorize heavily as your dress cannot be as heavy as a saree and even if it is the accessories will make it look more beautiful.

Rule 3: Footwear should either be ¬†in Gold,Silver or Copper. Don’t try to match your outfit with you footwear instead match it with the embroidery or the lining. This will give a nice mismatched look and will make you stand out. Too much matching creates a horrendous look when it comes to electric colours.

Rule 4: What applies for the footwear is exactly opposite for the make up. Electric coloured outfits call for heavy make up which means highlight your cheeks, eyes and lips in co-ordination with your outfit. Reason- if you opt for pale make up you will look uncomfortable without actually being it.

I have styled a Purple/Pink Velvet and Net dress with pearl earrings and lots of bangles. Since my dress has a gold lace I am wearing strapped Gold heels. As for my make-up I have highlighted my lips,cheeks and eyes the way I have told before. I had to deviate from my to go lipcolour here and use purple’s and pink’s instead.

So don’t worry girls you can look beautiful and rock it even while wearing Salwars!!!

Every girl who wears red isn't essentially a Bride!!!
Every girl who wears red isn’t essentially a Bride!!!

Before I start blogging about this look, I wanna clear a myth ” Red is only a bride’s colour” this statement might have applied before but it’s of no truth when it comes to today’s bride.

Weddings have totally changed. Right from the food that is served to the clothes that the bride and groom wear. Earlier Red was a staple colour when it came to bridal clothing but now that has changed bride’s are seen sporting sister shades of Red namely Orange and Coral. Also with change comes confidence today’s woman doesn’t care if a girl in the same room is wearing a similar shade outfit(at least my friends and me don’t).

So it’s okay to wear Red even if you are not the bride!!!

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This is the dress which I wore in my brother’s main wedding. Red Lehenga with Gold and Green Work. Yes I am a sucker for these colours.

I paired a Choker necklace with this outfit as the Blouse which I am wearing has a simple U neckline and the neckpiece goes in perfect symmetry with it. The earrings are my most to go earrings on any Indian outfit that’s why I chose them. While making a bangle set I mixed studded and pearl bangles keeping in mind the colour of my outfit.

I do not like overdoing hairstyles on Lehengas so I went for a simple mid puff with sleek and straight hair. You can use hair accessories if you like them but I like to keep my hair simple and without any accessories. But if you use hair accessories make sure they are not too blingy and shiny otherwise it can clash horribly with your outfit.

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In all this don’t forget to smile because at the end of the day the best accessory a woman has is her smile!!!

Now I am moving on to discuss evening looks which we can keep in mind for Sangeets and Reception.

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This 7 1/2 Kg Aqua Lehenga is what I wore for my brother’s sangeet ceremony. Its a beautiful net piece with gold embroidery and red,green velvet flowers.

My reason for choosing this particular colour is that it’s one of the most beautiful shade in the family of Blue and yet it’s used very less. I reserve bright colours for main weddings.

Always wear evening outfits with more work/embroidery having subtle fabric colours!!! Evening time is to shine so its more about being blingy than bright. The reflection which your diamonds cast on the floor when you twirl is priceless!!!

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Avoid loud makeup as the extra lighting will not only make your face look overdone but it will also spoil all your pictures completely.

I have just worn studded blue and clear bangles. Earrings are crystal clear chandeliers though they are not completely visible you can get a glimpse of them but for your reference I am uploading a picture of the earrings.

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Many people tell me we cannot wear a lehenga and dance. Is it okay if we wear a dress?

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You can absolutely wear a dress for sangeet. Just make sure that you don’t go for too flashy colours. Make sure that your dress has net at least 1% as it looks beautiful in those perfect evening lights. Also it would be more perfect if it has gold or silver in it (: !!!

Now let’s move on to the reception. Yes we can wear a saree,lehenga or even a salwar suit in a reception too, but what if we have already exhausted the use of these three outfits? What if we want to wear something different and yet keep it within the fashion circle? I have the perfect outfit for that!

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The Indo-Western Gown is the answer to our prayers!!! Yes we could wear a normal gown but would the fun and allure of the look be the same in an Indian wedding? No it won’t.

The concept of Indo Western gowns is so fresh that you will be talk of the function if you wear it.

The gown which I am wearing is in pastel colours except for the front sash which is hot pink. I asked the designer to make the sash in a dark colour as it creates perfect contrast and make it look even more sexy!!!

I went for a half straight and half curly hair do because I wanted to create that Athena style Goddess look and yes I pretty much nailed it. You can go for a bun also but if you want to break a stereotype go for something different like this.Buns and Gowns are pretty old school now.

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At last what matters is how you carry yourself!!! A classic woman has style and grace. Never forget that!!!

I had so much fun writing about this and I hope you enjoy when you read it too.

Xx

Shiningstylista

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My Daddy Strongest!!!

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F- Fond

A- Affectionate

T- Towards

H- Her

E- Every time

R-Relentlessly

The above full form is what I feel a father is. I am the second daughter in my family and the day I was born all my relatives made scrawny faces saying it’s a daughter. My parents were very happy because unlike some of my dimwitted,shallow shelled, pea brained relatives they feel that a daughter is a boon!!!

A mother is always happy when she gives birth no matter which gender her child is but we have seen many cases where father is gender biased. But in my case I am lucky as my father never treated me like a girl or a boy but like a Child. He loved me,nurtured me instilling good values in me and teaching me to be a good human irrespective of my gender.

Both my parents have been a huge source of inspiration for me. I didn’t have to look outside for idols when I have the biggest idol of inspiration right in my house-¬†MY DAD!!!¬†

Ever since I was a kid I always wanted to become a lawyer. I still remember I use to wear the band and my dad’s shoes and waltz in the house. I wanted to become a lawyer not because the law intrigued me but I saw my dad who was The Asst Public Prosecutor Thane then doing such good work that I wanted to become him. So I took admission in law and I made sure that I got enrolled in the college from where he had done his Law.

My father was assigned as Special Judge in the 1993 Bombay BombBlasts case. This happened when I was studying in primary school. I have had security cover even before I could understand what hurting someone meant. Many people were jealous that they have cops around and they roam in amber lamp cars. This was all a showbiz for them. But what they didn’t know that it was a Crown but a Crown of Thorns. All they saw was the press,the social status, the fawning. At this point many people wanted to befriend me because I was a famous person’s daughter but my dad had told me one thing about making friends A Friend is someone who wants to be with you because of who you are and not because of who your parents are.¬†Following this principle I was able to make friends for my life. People who stand beside me because of who I am and not because of who my Dad is.

Another thing which I learned from him was Never Let Fame Get To Your Head!!! He always taught me that your work should talk for you. Fame is temporary but work is permanent. Do as much as you can to change this world and you will be remembered with love and respect.

Presiding over the the longest criminal trial in the history of Indian Law all I saw in this man when he was at home was a Father and not a Judge. He loved his work and he loved being buried in work. But never once I remember did he tell me or my sister that I have too much pressure it’s not a good time to talk. He has always been there for us attending PTA’s, teaching us to ride bikes, taking us to parks. It’s hard for people believe but we have had a pretty simple and normal childhood. We did all the fun things we were supposed to do with parents. Despite handling work of 10 people alone he was never an absentee Dad. This is what made me learn Balancing!!!

He has always been so strong. In the 1993 blasts case the convicts were mostly terrorists but I never even remember one instance where he was scared of them. He always said “Fear should never stop you from doing your work”.¬†

There are so many things I have learned from him which are hard to pen down in one blog-post but all I would like to say here is my life motto is based on the values he has taught me.

People ask me often was your life different?

Yes my life was different. I was not able to enjoy certain social liberties completely. I had to make sure that people are not befriending me to contact my Dad. I was not able to have private moments with my boyfriend because I always had a security guy with me.

This use to be little unsettling to me when I was a kid but when I grew up I realized that you have make sacrifices for the greater good.

I don’t have any regrets of certain things that I lost because I am glad that my Dad was able to put people behind bars. Seeing this people who had terrorized our nation pay for their crime made it worthwhile.

Dad you have always been for an inspiration to me. All I wish is that I could become even 1% like you. I won’t be able to make a huge difference in the society but I promise that I will never deviate from the principles which you taught. Thank you for being you. I love you the most in this world!!!

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What I Strive For!!!

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Today am not blogging about Fashion or Tarot but I am blogging about living. Living life is very easy for us we work,eat,sleep,pray,party and so on. In this busy schedule we forget there are certain basic fundamental rights conferred upon us. We forget this because we don’t have to fight for them or maybe we have to but we just don’t want to.

I can’t change the society alone but if I can definitely come out of the closet and speak about what I want to change. Maybe 10 people will read what I write, 5 people will get inspired and 2 people will actually start talking about the changes they are looking for. It might be on a small scale but it will be a start. I just cannot sit idly and let the world pass by because if I keep complaining and not doing anything then am no different than the people who cause damage to the society!!!

So today I am blogging about some issues which I feel need to change. This is purely what I feel and has nothing to do with feelings/sentiments/religious beliefs of other people.

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MAAL,PATAKA,TOTA,FULJHADI,BOMB!!! SERIOUSLY IF I START ACTING LIKE A WEAPON, YOU WILL HAVE TO FIND SHELTER BEHIND ENEMY LINES!!! 

HELLO!!! We have a name just like you do, so why do you address us with lame pick-up lines and cheesy names? It’s very embarrassing when we are called by such weird names. We are human beings not weapons and honestly if you want us to be a weapon you will have cower behind enemy lines. Just imagine if we start calling you by names such as Grenade etc how will you feel, forget your feelings the society will say what a shameless woman!!! Don’t turn a woman into a weapon dude seriously you won’t be able to handle us!!!

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IF LIVING MY LIFE THE WAY I WANT TO FITS AS FEMINISM FOR YOU THEN YES I AM A FEMINIST!!!

Wow I admire your spirit, how can you be so smart and cool at the same time? This is something which people tell a lot to me. To be honest I don’t really do anything different. I am just living my life. I always give my opinions and take my stand on issues for which they say that¬†You are such a Feminist!!!¬†

I live my life according to my rules. My parents have taught me to be a good person and have a good karma and that is my life motto. When I do something I just think if its good or bad not if its¬†female inappropriate!¬†God gave us all equal rights he didn’t qualify things as male/female appropriate its humans who have done all this in the name of religion!!

What is feminist in giving your opinions? I means yes if living my life the way I want to without thinking what others feel about me is BEING FEMINIST then I am one for my life.

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MOM,DAD I FOLLOWED ALL RULES YOU HAD SET. I DIDN’T PARTY,HAD DRUGS OR CONSUMED ALCOHOL. I WAS DRIVING WITHIN LIMITS BACK FROM WORK, THEY CAME FROM NOWHERE AND BANGED MY CAR. I AM SORRY MOM, I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO.

What was my mistake? I did everything my parents asked. Never drove the car when I was drunk, never went off the speed limit to show off my driving skills. I respected the rules my parents set because I thought no I knew they would keep me safe but in the end it just wasn’t enough.

I am sorry Mom I wish I could have done more, Dad I wish someone had taught the person to drive responsibly the way you taught me. 

Do we really have enough traffic laws to avoid accidents? Is our law strict enough to scare people off drunken driving? Personally I don’t sympathize at all with people who drive under the influence of Alcohol. Yes they need to be subjected to a fair trial but once proven guilty they shouldn’t be given any benefits. They shouldn’t be let off by just paying a fine, their punishment should be more strict. They should think twice before committing such a crime in the future.

These people don’t care even if someone dies below their vehicle. They just feel that since they have enough money either they can bribe their way off by paying a cop or give a fine and get off easily. This needs to change and it needs to change immediately!!!

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I LOVE YOU MOM. I LOVE YOU DAD. DON’T KILL ME BECAUSE THE SOCIETY FEELS I AM A BURDEN. GIVE ME A CHANCE AND I WILL PROVE THAT I AM AN ASSET. SAVE ME. SAVE THE GIRL CHILD!!!

They say girls are a burden. Did you ever think that maybe they weren’t good parents, had poor parenting skills and that is why they thought she was a burden. Don’t believe them. They are in no position to make declarations. A girl always inspires you. She nurtures you as a mother, makes your life fun as a sister, is there for you as a girlfriend and leaves everything she has and gives you your own family as a wife!!! Do you think if she does so much she can be qualified as a burden? If there is no one to do the above mentioned things no matter how many assets you possess your life will be empty!!!

Girls are an asset. Don’t kill them in the womb. If people are asking you to do that in the name of religion its horseshit. God never asks for anyone’s life, he has given chances even to demons, do you really think he will ask you to kill an unborn child? Release these myths. They are all man-made. Rise above it. Be a good human being and SAVE THE GIRL CHILD!!!

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IF YOU NEED A GIRLFRIEND,SISTER AND WIFE THEN SAVE THE GIRL CHILD!!! OTHERWISE SOON WE WILL BE EXTINCT!!!

Ever thought of a world without women? Who will cook for you, who will be at the short end of the stick when your boss yells at you, who will take care of you when you are sick, who will make sure your clothes are ironed, who will hold your hand and tell you everything will be okay,who will have sex with you when you are aroused? There are so many things that women do for you and there are so many roles that they play in your life!!! But we are getting killed and soon we are gonna be extinct like those tropical birds and you will have to make do without us.If hearing this seems horrible then just imagine what would living in a world like this would be!!!

If not for us then at least for yourself SAVE THE GIRL CHILD!!! 

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FEMINISM FOR ME IS GENDER EQUALITY!!! I DON’T WANT TO BE SUPERIOR TO MEN ALL I PRAY FOR IS THAT THE SOCIETY TREATS US TO BE EQUAL WITH MEN.

WOMEN=MEN 

Feminism means advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of “EQUALITY OF SEXES”

Those who feel that feminism is women trying to prove that they are superior to men know crap about feminism. This is wrong, we just wanna be equals. God gave rights and liabilities to human beings not just to a certain sex. Equality is God’s gift who the hell is the society to deny it to me because am not a man?

Feminism is not about hating men. It’s about women trying to fight for basic rights like education,equal pay etc. I am not wrong if I feel that I should be paid equally as men for a same job, my sex should be of no relevance here. I am not wrong if I want to pursue photography as a profession, again here my sex is irrelevant.

This can be achieved if man and woman work as a team. The society will be harmonious if we team up. Help us we are not trying to say we are better than you all we need is a chance to walk shoulder to shoulder with you.

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I AM LEAVING MY HOME,PARENTS,SIBLINGS & MY LIFE. YOU ARE GETTING EVERYTHING!!! THEN WHY SHOULD MY PARENTS PAY YOU? DOES LOVE REQUIRE MONEY? 

Marriage is a big step in a woman’s life. She changes her lifestyle, leaves her family and her entire old life behind to start a new life with you. She is the one making sacrifices her. All that happens to you is gain, you get a wife, your parents get a daughter-in-law, your sister gets a sister-in-law. She takes care of your family, is a confidante to your sister, she loves you and her entire married life revolves around you. You treat her as a commodity and you know the best part is you don’t even pay her.

Despite all this why do you expect her parents to pay? Do you pay her parents because you are taking away their child? No you don’t so why do her parents have to pay you?

I WILL NEVER GET MARRIED TO A GUY WHO ASKS DOWRY. BLOODY I DON’T NEED SOMEONE WHO NEEDS MONEY FOR JEWELS AND ELECTRONICS FROM MY PARENTS.¬†

Countless of our fellow sisters get burned because their parents cannot pay the in-laws. They are set free and the poor girl loses her life and even if she lives the society doesn’t accept her as she was dumped by her husband. Shame on all of us for letting this go on for so long.

SAY NO TO DOWRY. YOUR DAUGHTER IS BETTER OFF SINGLE FOR HER ENTIRE LIFE THAN BEING WITH SUCH A MAN. 

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YOU NEVER SET A MARRIAGEABLE AGE FOR MEN THEN WHY FOR WOMEN? I HAVE A RIGHT TO DECIDE WHEN TO MARRY? NOT THE SOCIETY’S.

Oh my God you are 27 and not married yet. Your biological clock is ticking, you will have problems having a baby. She just crossed 30 I am sure there is some fault in her birth chart and that’s why she is not getting married. Holy Cow so many assumptions!!!

She is 27 and not married well newsflash it’s her life. If she doesn’t have a baby she can adopt again her life. The girl who is 30 and you thought has issues in her birth chart because of which her marriage is getting delayed is 10 times more successful in her career than your son.

Marriage is a beautiful union of two people in love. Don’t screw it up for others. Let them get married in their own time. And even if they don’t want to then let them be it’s their life.

You never say that a 27 year old guy who is unmarried will have issues then why to a girl? Especially this when said by Women about Women is more shocking.

WE NEED TO CHANGE THIS NARROW MINDED THINKING!!!

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RAPE IS JUSTIFIED BECAUSE SHE WAS EXPOSING HER THIGHS. WTF!!!HOW MANY TIMES YOU RAPED YOUR SISTER BECAUSE YOU SAW HER LEGS? RESPECT ALL WOMEN THEY ARE SOMEONE’S SISTERS AND DAUGHTERS TOO!!!

A person who feels rape is justified should be put behind bars immediately!!! If he thinks that way then he won’t think twice before committing rape. He is a threat and shouldn’t be allowed to live freely in society.

I saw her thighs and got turned on so I raped her. She was freely roaming in short clothes. These things don’t mean that Rape is justified. She doesn’t deserve to be raped just because she was wearing modern clothes.How many times you raped your sister when she wore a shorts in front of you? If you can be responsible towards your sister then why not towards women in general, they are someone’s sisters too!!!

A rapist is an arsehole who forces his will on someone and doesn’t care how much he is hurting them. Rapists deserve fair trials but once proven guilty they need to be punished in such a way that due to fear of the punishment Rape becomes totally non-existent.

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IF I WEAR A SHORT SKIRT I AM SLUT. IF I WEAR A SALWAR I AM A BEHENJI. WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO WEAR BUT TO BE HONEST I DON’T CARE!!!

One thing that annoys me to no end is judging people by their clothing. How can you judge a book by its cover? All classic books have single colour covers with just titles, does that mean they are plain? Hell no classic books have the richest grammar and the best stories.

Just because she wore a skirt doesn’t mean she is a slut, pal she fasts on every Tuesday and Saturday and never leaves the house without praying to God. Just because she wore a salwar she is not a behenji dude she speaks English more better than you and is a Masters in Mass Communication.

Women started hating men because of their attitude towards them. We are treated like commodities and trashed in public.

I am not saying all women all bullied and subjected to injustice. But those who are can we please help them out.

I am asking all Women who are being treated badly to come forward. You are a victim because of your own choice. Don’t do this rise, be your own superhero. Its¬†your choice what you want to become in your own story A VICTIM OR A HERO?

I am requesting all men who feel that what I have said is right and needs to be changed to come forward and help us make a change in the society. Let’s show them that man and women are equal and they can work wonders when they are a TEAM.

Flower Power

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Oh My God she is wearing such a beautiful floral maxi, is what you thought when that girl passed by on the street. You know you can easily look as beautiful as her, all you need to do is style your florals effectively.

In the above image I am wearing a Body con floral dress with wired wedges, the reason that I am wearing wired wedges is that in monsoons I feel more comfortable wearing wedges than Stilettos. The reason that I chose light coloured wedges is because my dress has a lot of green and red so wearing bright coloured shoes would have been too loud.

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In both the looks I am wearing floral earrings to complement the dress.The earrings in the first image are pure Brass Floral earrings by FancyPants The Store and the second ones are Enamel Studs with spikes by Amrapali Tribal (Chandrika Collection). If you pair floral earrings with a floral outfit they will bring out the dress even more beautifully but make sure that they are not too big. Also take care of the colour as in avoid electrical or neon earrings. The Chandrika earrings which I am sporting are dull pink in colour.

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Sunglasses are my most favourite essentials when I go out. Here in one look I am sporting Brown RayBans. I opted for a brown colour RayBan because a green,orange or blue one would have clashed with my dress and killed the beauty of both. Also the rim of my sunglasses was gold and I was wearing brass earrings so I opted for a RayBan.If you are wearing a floral dress which doesn’t have a white base then you can easily pair it with a Green or Orange RayBan.

In the second picture I am wearing Black Oversized Sunglasses. I wanted to try this because the colour Black always when paired with multicolours creates a mind boggling effect.

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The make up I am wearing is my usual. Please do not put loads of make-up on floral outfits it looks trashy. I have worn a Red Lipstick from the Loreal Star Collection (Pure Scarleto) the shade which Blake Lively has sported and Mac Compact Shade 42.

You can also try using a pink or orange lipstick on a floral outfit as since you are highlighting only aspect of make-up a cheering colour will do the perfect trick.

I went ¬†little overboard and sported a Floral Wood Cover too!! But that’s me I like to co-ord my phone cover with my dresses!!! If you like it you can buy it from http://www.bewakoof.com

So I guess you know now how easy it is to dress up in florals!!! Just few basics to remember and yes you will be that girl whom you noticed!!!!