Feminism– a word which has become a taboo even before people have known the real meaning of it.
The dictionary meaning to the word FEMINISM is the advocacy of Women’s rights on the ground of the equality of sexes.
Many people feel that feminism is nothing but hating men. That is absolutely wrong. All we feminists plead for is same rights as men socially and professionally .For instance: If I am a lawyer working in a firm with the same amount of experience and intelligence as a co male colleague of mine is it right if I am paid less only because I am a woman and there are some preconceived notions about my abilities? I am taking care of my house as well as I am working isn’t that proof enough that I can balance my life? How many men do that? I am not asking you to treat me higher than men all I am demanding is the same respect.
Another issue is a girl’s in laws not allowing her to work because they feel that she won’t take care of the house properly. That is utter rubbish. I have seen so many people, even some of them my relatives working and taking care of their houses beautifully. I mean for crying out loud you are getting a daughter-in-law not a serving girl. I know a girl is suppose to take care of her family post-marriage but that should be out of love not force. Love a woman and see she will even lay down her life for you. Don’t kill someone’s ambitions. Its okay for your son to dream then why not extend the same courtesy to your daughter-in-law? If you really want her to you to treat her the way your daughter does then you should also be her father and mother than her in laws and then see how much she will love you.
This post-marriage work issue has led to a lot of divorces and even deaths of women and girls because of which the ugly head of the issue of Female Foeticide is blossoming. Parents are killing their babies in the wombs when they realize its a girl child. Nothing can be more unfortunate and horrific than killing your own child even before its born. Its ironic that in some countries A girl is considered to be Goddess Laxmi but yet at the same time they consider her to be cursed too and kill her.Now how can you be happy and prosper in life if you slay a Goddess, that makes you nothing but a hideous monster. You should be proud of her and raise her the way you father in law raise your wife, if they wouldn’t have would you have had a wife in the first place? It makes me sad that our entire life is shaped by a woman in many forms- a mother, a sister, a wife and a daughter ; yet we choose to kill them. Why? What have they done to you? If you are killing them because you are afraid to raise them then I guess its speaks about you being an asshole than a girl child being a burden.
In my family we are two sisters but never have even once my parents complained about the absence of a son. They love and cherish us. My father despite being a man is proud of me. He makes me take my own decisions, asks me for help if he is unable to do something, he doesn’t feel ashamed taking help from a woman. The smile which he gives me when I give a simple solution to the problem which he is having proves it to me how much he is proud of me. That is the mark of a real man. A real man doesn’t hit a woman but he makes sure to break the head of the one who abuses a woman. Now its your decision if you want to be a real man or no.
Another issue which irritates me is the hype people create over women’s clothes. Technically when we are born we are all naked, clothes are part that came into being through civilization. No one ever questions a man when he goes out shirtless but if a woman is wearing a bikini people will look at her like she is a whore. Its my body, I am supposed to decide what to wear. Who the hell are you to deduce about my character on the kind of clothes that I wear? Like that was not enough Rape is justified by men saying that she was wearing clothes which turned me on. I am asking you horny bastard will you rape your mother if she is wearing sexy clothes? Will you wolf-whistle at your sister? Will you sing cheap songs for your daughter? No you won’t then why not respect other women too. She is also someone’s daughter, sister and wife. Don’t look at women like they are sexual objects.Its okay for you to show the border of your boxer through your jeans because some actor you follow did that, then why am I looked upon at like a Slut if I wear a mini skirt which my favorite actress adorned? How will you feel if I say your boxer turned me on? Of course you would spare no time in telling your friends that she is an easy go and she wants to sleep with me? Damn your logic, your parents should have taught you some manners instead of wasting all those years of education on you as apparently nothing has filled that Melon head of yours.
In today’s world lots of women are coming out and standing up for their rights. They are understanding and embracing feminism. But we will be able to end Gender Inequality only when Men stand up with us and support feminism. Its okay for a man to show emotions too but he thinks that if he does so he will be bullied by fellow men. That is wrong as men before being men are humans and humans have emotions. God created all men and women alike with his own hands. We are all the same sculpted by the almighty, then why not be humans first? So am asking all men to come forward and be understanding. Its for your sake too. A mother is considered the most important in one’s life but according to me a father is important too. A child needs both his parents to be around him while growing up. Logically the society needs man and woman to work together as equals for harmony. Accept it and embrace it.
No matter how much I write about the issue of Feminism, I won’t be done with everything. So as an ending to this I would like to quote a few points from Emma Watson’s Speech at UN which touched my heart
1) If men don’t have to be aggressive in order to be accepted women won’t feel compelled to be submissive.
2) If men don’t have to control women won’t have to be controlled.
3) It is time that we all perceive Gender on a spectrum instead of two sets of opposing ideals.
4) If we start defining each other by what we are not and start defining us by who we are, we can all be free.
5) I want men to take this mantle so that not only their daughters,sisters and wives can be free from prejudice but also their sons can be vulnerable and human.
6) If not me then who? If not now, when? If you have similar doubts when presented with similar opportunities I hope these words will be helpful.
I so agree with Emma. Let’s all stand together and end Gender Inequality for once and all. I am proud to be woman are you?
I AM A FEMINIST FOR LIFE